What Matters Most... PDL16 · Jun 18, 09:50 AM
One of my favorite movies to watch with Debbie is Moulin Rouge (enjoying romantic comedies is a learned skill for me). The movie opens with the poor young writer typing the opening words, “The greatest thing you will ever learn is to love and be loved.”
Resolving Conflict - Part 6 · Jun 16, 03:41 PM
Effective communication becomes especially important during times of conflict. When we are in a conflict, we tend to become defensive. Anger and hurt make it more difficult to be vulnerable and listen with an open heart to the other person. We may tend to justify ourselves or try to blame the other person.
Guidelines for effective communication (part 5) · Jun 7, 08:31 AM
Years ago when Deb and I first moved to Miami, we were moving in different paths, gradually orbiting away from one another. Our friend Paul Petrie visited us and saw the problem. He gently confronted us with the need to begin to meet weekly to communicate and resolve our conflicts. Here are some guidelines he suggested.
"Problem solving" versus "sharing the moment." · May 30, 07:46 AM
Men also often tend to be “problem solvers,” whereas women like to “share the moment.” Now, I don’t know if this is something genetic, or something cultural. Probably a little of both, but ask yourself if it tends to be true in your experience. It may have something to do with a ‘task orientation’ versus a ‘relational orientation’.
Tell the Truth but be nice about it: part 3 · May 26, 07:19 AM
A woman might say, “yes, but B and C are not getting along and A has a hidden agenda, besides Q and C have been spending a lot of time together lately.” At that point, the man looks at the woman with a bewildered look on his face and says, “what??”
Tell The Truth but be nice! - Part 2 · May 21, 05:00 PM
Have you ever clicked on something on your computer screen and then had to wait on the little hourglass? It means “wait! Processing… Processing…”
"Tell the Truth but be nice" Part 1 · May 17, 08:35 AM
Communication skills are essential for the survival of any long term relationship. Without healthy communication, partners will inevitably begin to drift off into to their own separate worlds. An accumulation of unresolved conflicts may result in the deterioration and rupture in a relationship.
